Dec Del Ray Club Newsletter 2017

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12th Month – 12th Step
Happy December! As we wrap up the final days of 2017, we come to the close of another year of sobriety, unity, and recovery at the Del Ray Club.
The 12th month of the year calls the 12th step, especially, to mind. Our final suggestion — in AA and adapted slightly for other programs that find a home at the Del Ray Club — is to carry the message to other alcoholics, and to practice the principles in all of our affairs.
This can definitely be a tall order. But all I really need to know and remember about the 12th step is in my own experience of getting sober. I showed up at Del Ray with just a few days sober, in a great deal of pain and completely unclear on how I was going to keep a drink out of my hand one day at a time. The faces and voices of the 6 pm meeting in particular were my living example of the 12th step, although I didn’t know it at the time. The 6 has remained my home group for over four years now, and when I show up there, I try to pay forward what was given to me. I not only truly want to help people who are new or struggling or both, but I know it’s the heart of my own ongoing recovery, too.
The Del Ray Club is the 12th step in action in so many ways—an open door, coffee always on, a strong message of recovery in nearly 50 meetings each week, and always at least one understanding person to listen and to share when you need it. I honestly don’t know if I’d be sober without it, and I’m glad that I don’t have to wonder. I look forward to another year of strong service and unity at Del Ray, and I’m glad you’ll all be here too. Like James always says, we just can’t do it without each other.

By Laurie W

3rd Annual Holiday Singalong
We are not a glum lot — it says so right in the Big Book. You’ll see that for sure if you spend any time around the Del Ray Club, and the 3rd Annual Holiday Singalong was a prime opportunity. Chaired by Cindy D. and Estelle for the third year, this opportunity to celebrate the holidays in song with friends in recovery actually spilled into the hallway outside the Chuck O. room. (Who says you can’t do a conga line sober?)
I identified as very much “not a joiner” pre-sobriety, and spent a lot of time on the sidelines. I certainly thought I needed to drink to participate in anything that featured singing, and especially dancing. I challenged myself to show up at one of the club’s Open Mic nights a few years ago, and half an hour later found myself singing a Janis Joplin song. I’m so comfortable at Del Ray that things can happen here that I wouldn’t have ever dreamed possible—starting with getting sober. So check the bulletin boards and listen up in meetings for the next event announcement, and stop in. You never know what you’ll enjoy until you try. I am living proof.
Many thanks to Cindy and Estelle for putting this great event together. We appreciate you!

By Laurie W

Holiday Dinners at the Club
A Long-Time Fellowship Tradition

Join your fellows for a Christmas Day meal after the noon meeting, the latest of Del Ray’s traditional warm and wonderful holiday dinners organized by Carol M. and her husband Tom.
Carol Tom have organized and cooked holiday dinners for people in recovery five times a year at the Del Ray Club, for decades. The holiday dinners provide a safe, festive, alcohol-free respite for so many of us around the holidays. Dinners are held at the Club on Memorial Day, the Fourth of July, Labor Day, Thanksgiving and Christmas day, typically following the noon meeting.
Carol and Tom took over responsibility for the dinners after long-time dinner organizer Betty R. died. “I kind of fell into [doing the dinners] by accident, by helping Betty,” says Carol. “Tom got sober at Del Ray more than 30 years ago and I joined Al-Anon. When I started off helping Betty, I didn’t know anyone at the Del Ray Club but Betty. By doing the dinners, I met lots of members.”
“Betty was a great person,” says 33-year DRC member, Nan F. “I think she started doing the dinners in the early 1980s so sober people would have a place to get together, possibly because some don’t have family. It definitely helped with my sobriety early on. And one year, my whole family, including two grandchildren, joined me at a Thanksgiving dinner at Del Ray.”
While Carol’s famous deviled eggs are a big draw for many who attend the dinners, Carol quietly focuses on her service to her fellow people in recovery. “I just enjoy doing it and seeing the smiles on the faces of the people as they go through the [buffet] line,” Carol says. “I find service very rewarding, maybe more than you can know. I can’t even put it into words.”
Carol and Tom rely on volunteers to assist them with some of the dinner details. “Before Tom lost his eye sight, he was in charge of carving the turkey,” remembers Carol. Club manager, James R., was charged with that responsibility this year. “James is a godsend,” Carol exclaims. “He is there every time we do the dinners and is extremely responsible and extremely helpful.”
Carol C., who has almost 29 years of sobriety, credits the Del Ray Club for her recovery. She’s been attending the holiday dinners since they were held on Del Ray Avenue, many years ago. She enjoys how, at the Club’s present location, all dinner attendees can sit together in one room. “Del Ray number two had room only for one table,” says Carol C. “And at the Pearl Street location [the third Del Ray Club location], we were scattered among the different rooms there.”
“The Del Ray holiday noon meetings and dinners afterwards were critical in my very early recovery, and they are still an important part of every holiday for me,” says Laurie W. “A meeting and a gathering with my friends at the club sets the tone for the rest of my day, and I don’t ever feel alone.”

By Maria O

When they say, keep coming back until the miracle happens … What do they mean?
The way I had heard this saying was “Don’t quit 5 minutes before the miracle happens.” This little slogan was HUGE for me. I believe that if someone had not told me this slogan I would not be sober today. It gave me a way not to drink sometimes a minute at a time. What was the miracle? The miracle was that I had not taken a drink in the past 1 minute, 5 minutes, a day, a week, a month, and a year, and so on. Eventually more miracles happened and the promises started happening! Yes, there are still bad days but that one, not so little slogan, has continually helped me not to drink but to do other things as well. I am now more aware of some of my character defects, such as procrastinating and overeating, and I am able to deal with those deficits in a more healthy way. The list goes on, and the miracle continues to happen. By Anonymous, 2015

Do I have to hug people? How do I avoid physical contact if it makes me uncomfortable?
Do I have to hug people? How do I avoid physical contact if it makes me uncomfortable?
I do not generally like to hug or be hugged at meetings. However, when I attend a particular meeting where I feel very safe, I have been inspired to hug other members. Generally, at other meetings, I will ask people if I may give them a hug. They usually agree and will hug me as much as I hug them. Once, I was waiting for my new sponsor before a meeting. I must have looked very, very sad. A woman, who was in that place for a different meeting told me that she was a “serial hugger” and I agreed to let her hug me. Amazingly, it was a moment of Grace for me. I felt my terror slip away. I thanked her. She smiled and walked away. I was really surprised at how much that lady helped me that day. – Anonymous, 1987

If you don’t like to be hugged, avoid it. Hugging, like misery, is an option. – Anonymous, 1991

A person told me that if I like everyone I meet in AA, I have not been to enough meetings. What is that all about?
Challenging people are part of life. For a person in recovery, being exposed to people who make us uncomfortable is a good way to learn to deal with the reality of life outside of the rooms. Meetings are a great way to learn about ourselves. It is often surprising to us when realize we are experiencing feelings that are not as peaceful or positive as we might like. – Anonymous, 2014

Look for our bulletin board in the hallway at the Del Ray Club and see what questions might interest you to ask or to answer. You might see YOUR OPINION in print here in the next Newsletter.


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